(Pep Talk To Self)
So here’s an announcement I haven’t really made but probably should have, since this is a blog that focuses on my writing: I have started querying On the Line. *Cheers* And with querying comes rejection, something I can now say I’ve experienced.
I’m not going to go into more detail, because there’s really no need for it. As a writer, I’ve learned that you have to be tough against rejection; you have to push for what you want, but you also have to know where to stop.
When I got rejected at first (not during querying, but with writing in general) I was crushed. I was mad with myself for not trying harder, doing better, clocking in more time and working harder. But with time, I’ve learned to accept a rejection. Art is subjective, and a rejection is not a measure of your merit as a writer–just the opinion of the agent/editor/blogger/other person in authority. You respect their opinion, accept their choice, and move on with your life.
Sure, it might take some ice cream with Eli Young Band’s When It Rains blaring in the background; you might have to tell yourself “I don’t care” repeatedly; you might even cry. It’s okay. You’ll be able to move on and send your baby out into the world again and again until finally, some day, you’ll get it. You’ll get that book deal or that dream agent. You’ll succeed.
While querying, I haven’t really gotten down because of rejection. Maybe because it’s been drilled into my head so many times that everyone gets rejected at first. Maybe because despite my teenage naivety, I’m cynical enough not to let myself hope for too much. Hope is great and all, but hope for the hopeless, I think sometimes, leads to heartbreak. And I’ve learned the hard way that you don’t always get what you want in life. There are no fairy-tale endings.
Sorry for the pessimism (or, should I say, realism). :) All I’m saying is, keep on dreaming… But don’t let it break your heart. (Another Eli Young Band reference there.)
Hey, while we’re on that topic, look up that song. Even If It Breaks Your Heart by Eli Young Band. It’s some of the bit more mainstream country, so maybe you’ve heard it; I think it’s the perfect song that mixes cynicism and realism with hope. Dream all you want, but make sure your feet stay firmly planted on the ground. Don’t be afraid to chase even what seems impossible–as long as you acknowledge that it may be impossible, but you’re gonna do it anyways.
Don’t let rejection set you back.
Remember, art is subjective and rejection is an opinion–an opinion you should respect, but not be brought down by.
I don’t know if I’m making any sense here. You know what? When in doubt, eat ice cream.
Tell me about your experiences with rejection in the comments. :)
[Aside: Hey, for someone who is supposedly "taking a break" from blogging, I'm not doing too badly keeping you posted, huh? :)]